Dating rejection anger
Over the last five years she has also been sharing her lessons from life in her personal development blog here:
Rejections can cause four distinct psychological wounds, the severity of which depends on the situation and our emotional health at the time.
We often describe the emotional pain we experience after a significant rejection as analogous to being punched in the stomach or stabbed in the chest.
True, few of us have actually been stabbed in the chest, but when psychologists asked people to compare the pain of rejection to physical pains they had experienced, they rated their emotional pain as equal in severity to that associated with natural childbirth and cancer treatments!
Many of the rejections we experience are comparatively mild and our injuries heal with time.Ever had the experience of asking someone out for a date and feeling depressed after you were rejected?Ever go to a party, talk to some people you never met before and experienced a lack of interest in you or about what you were saying?Remarkably, the two systems are so tightly linked that when scientists gave people acetaminophen (Tylenol) before putting them through the dastardly ball-tossing rejection experiment, they reported significantly less emotional pain than people who were not given a pain reliever.Sadly, other negative emotions like embarrassment do not share these characteristics, rendering Tylenol ineffective when we get the date wrong for our office Halloween party and show up to work dressed like Marge Simpson.
Or more recently, when that job application didn’t work out?